that feeling when mingyu.....

I had a lot of memories with mingyu, as a friend, and as his gf's best friend.

Our relationship is platonic, of course. But my secret admiration for him is consistent. I don't like to show my affections. So I guess, even as his gf's best friend, I am still okay. I like to be around him, even though he already went out with Sammy. Me and Sammy were like really good friends. We were not in competition or anything. I sincerely think that she should go out with him too. Maybe because I think I probably have no chance of dating him even if I am single. Due to a number of reasons. Like nationality wise, location wise, identity wise, etc. I think I don't have that typical Korean face, or oriental features.

Anyways, I had a boyfriend then. To be honest, Gordon Park was not the first guy who got my attention on campus, cos there were just so many guys in general and in the engineering school. I didn't even notice his existence except for a few times when I went to the gym. Who would you pick, Doctor Mingyu who is your friend and buddy, or Taeyang who is like a ghost that only exists online and occasionally in the gym? I didn't really know anything about Gordon Park in my first year. I had no chance of getting to know him. Whereas, Mingyu is a guy whom I had close relationship with. I don't believe in love at first sight.

Maybe Sammy noticed that I secretly admire her boyfriend too. A few days before winter break freshman year, we had a secret santa game. I was Mingyu's secret santa. I bought him a pair of boxers. He bought me a tshirt from Armani Exchange! It was one of my favorite brands. And it had like the names of 90 cities written on the tshirt. And in the middle down on the neck, it said Hong Kong, Columbia (maybe could have been Colombia). And I was so happy. Because he paid attention to details and it was a lot of words and I saw those two words. Imagine Mingyu being your friend and he says he likes where you come from.

I don't know why I bought him a pair of boxers. I used to think that maybe he is gay. But then, he had a girlfriend. I don't know cos he is so metrosexual. Why did I buy him a pair of boxers? I forgot where I bought already, maybe Giorgio Armani? Maybe like Banana Republic? Um...I secretly admire him while also having some worries at the back of my mind that he is gay. Because he is very neat and he went to a Catholic all boys school like me.

He invited me to his room many times. With Sammy. We watched the horror movie 大逃殺 together. I think he knows what I am thinking without my needs to tell him. Because that movie was Japanese and it talked about survival games. I really thought that my process of college application was kind of like that where a bunch of high schoolers were thrown on an island and they had to kill each other to survive. And I like Japanese horror movies, when I am not stressed, cos watching it kind of stressful. And the fact that he picked this movie, kind of impressed me.

A few days after we watched 大逃殺 in his room, he invited Sammy to swing dance. Mingyu never went on a date with me one on one. It was always group dates with Sammy. I always tagged along. The Korean students had a lot of fun activities together. They were part of KSA and they did like swing dance together. Mingyu is a very romantic and old schooled guy. He is very old fashioned. Like someone from the 70s. Mingyu doesn't look old fashioned though. Mingyu looks very city and metrosexual on the outside. I think I like this type. Very modern on the outside, but very old schooled on the inside.

And then Mike Cho (who is also a medical doctor and professor at Duke) and Mingyu and Sammy and I had like coldstone icecream at Times Square freshman year. It was so cold and we had to eat ice cream in winter. We did a lot of memorable things together. I think they are really fun people to begin with. They break all the stereotypical doctor profiles in Hong Kong. Mingyu is hot, funny, romantic, old schooled, nice, committed and not full of himself. And very good looking.

To be honest, I think Gordon Park is not as ideal as him. Before it was, it still is, and it will be.

Mike Cho and Tom Lee and Sammy did this prank on the subway. Mike Cho had to do this crazy thing like saying "one dollar for a slap on my ass" thing. And then he asked me what the Chinese word for taking off the clothes. I said 脫衣服...I asked Mike, how do you say "help" when you ask for rescue, he said 도와줘...And he said something like 왕자병, 공주병 in Korean. They were so funny. So I wanted to learn Korean. It might sound too crazy for me in freshman year. But after going out with Gordon Park, I thought maybe I should really learn some Korean cos they are really funny people.

Btw, Sammy got the highest bid at date auction cos I was uplifting her price. And Mike Cho bought that date with her. He took her out on a date at the rooftop restaurant at Times Square. I think Korean people are so romantic, compared to HK guys, who are practical, always chasing KPI and materialistic.

We also had those Korean drinking games in K town. Yes, imagine Mingyu playing those Korean drinking games with you freshman year like those K drama. And Mingyu is from Jersey, and a medical doctor from Columbia University. Imagine Mingyu being your 소개팅 friends.

I told them I couldn't drink cos I was allergic to alcohol, but it was a lie. My tolerance to alcohol gradually grew cos Sammy took me to K town soju bars every weekend with her Korean friends. You know those Korean drinking games like APT where you had to drink after losing. It was like playing with the bottle caps or something. Really silly. Yeah, so I felt like I was those SKY students in Seoul when I hang out with Sammy and Mingyu, even though we were all Columbia students. So different from those HKU orientation games, which I tried to avoid in all ways.

Mingyu's prank on the subway was that he had to sing in public. He chose a song "When I fall in love" by Nat King Cole and sang it to Sammy on the subway. I think he means it, like it would be forever when he falls in love. Even if he doesn't mean it really, still I think it was pretty impressive cos it is so old schooled that I have rarely heard of this song until he sang it. And he knew all the lyrics by heart. He is so funny yet serious. A very attractive combination.

If you ask me to choose again, I still probably couldn't retrieve my decision to go out with Eddie cos Mingyu was my best friend's boyfriend. But if I have a second chance, and maybe if I get over this moral thing about dating my friend's ex, I think I may fall in love with him again if I see him.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HBUus4rx2sc